DELIVERY TO:
I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD END UP AS A MOTHER OF 4
5 Sep 2018
I never thought I would end up as a mother of four. When I met my husband, I actually warned him that I was a career woman, and having kids was not part of my plan. But, soon, I changed my mind and, today, spending time with my children is what gives me my greatest joy in life. Four little individuals with their own needs and personalities are, of course, also a challenge in the sense that I constantly wonder if each one of them gets enough time and attention. But, somehow, things also come easier to me – I am far more relaxed and confident as a mother now, in comparison to when I got my first child. I allow myself to enjoy being a mom, and do not worry so much if I am doing everything perfectly.
As modern women in the western world, we are told that we can have it all, but I, sometimes, wonder if it is that easy. Can you, indeed, have a career and be a devoted and present mom at the same time? We have great, expensive educations and we are climbing the career ladder, and then we get kids! And, everything changes over night. Of course, it is a balance and I am not passing judgement or saying that stay-at-home-moms have better lives or that career women are the lucky ones, I am only saying that with motherhood comes choices; and, sometimes, hard choices; and dilemmas; and great love and responsibility; and a lot of work. Having said that, we are lucky in Scandinavia to have good, affordable daycare, and a system that makes it a little easier to combine a professionally fulfilling work life with having a family.
Ultimately, my kids are the most important thing in the world, and my most important ambition is to be an attentive and dedicated mother to them. Time will tell how I’ll find the balance when I start working again. Right now, I am just thankful to have four happy and healthy children.
